MOURNING

· Meredith (opening voiceover): According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into denial because the loss is so unthinkable; we can't imagine it's true. We become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we bargain, we beg, we plead, we offer everything we have. We offer up our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we have done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into acceptance.

· Meredith (closing voiceover): In medical school, we have a hundred lessons that teach us how to fight off death, and not one lesson on how to go on living.

· Lexie (closing voiceover): Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.
Mark: It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change.
Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.
Izzie: That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive.
Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much.
Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way.
Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty.
Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it.
Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes.
Callie: And let it go when we can.
Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again.
Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away.

Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five.
Alex: Denial.
Derek: Anger.
Bailey: Bargaining.
Lexie: Depression.
Chief: Acceptance.

When the world
Is gray and bleak
Baby don't you cry
I will give you every bit
Of love that's in my heart
I will bake it up
Into a simple little pie

Baby don't you cry
Gonna make a pie
Gonna make a pie
With a heart in the middle
Baby don't be blue
Gonna make for you
Gonna make a pie
With a heart
In the middle
Gonna be a pie
From heaven above
Gonna be filled
With strawberry love
Baby don't you cry
Gonna make a pie
And hold you forever
In the middle of my heart

Baby here's the sun
Baby here's the sky
Baby i'm your light
And i'm your shelter
Baby you are mine
I could freeze the time
Keep you in my kitchen
With me forever
Gonna be a pie
From heaven above
Gonna be filled
With strawberry love
Baby don't you cry
Gonna make a pie
And hold you forever
In the middle of my heart

Gonna bake a pie
From heaven above
Gonna be filled
With butterscotch love
Gonna bake a pie
From heaven above
Gonna be filled
With banana creme love

Baby don't you cry
Gonna bake a pie
Hold you forever
Hold you forever
And hold you forever
In the middle of my heart...

Quincy Coleman

And it starts again...